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I know the struggle, you want to give her a
gift that will thrill her, really show her how
much you care for her. I am always trying to
do this for my wife and it takes a serious game
plan. I used to think it was a big dollar item
that would really Wow her. I realize guys like
to keep score, so on a scale of 1-10 a big dollar
item thrills my wife a disappointing 5.
Now don't go and click away just yet. I am not
talking about engagement rings, houses or cars.
I am talking about that expensive diamond necklace
she said she wanted. It’s a nice piece of jewelry
for her birthday in the $200-$300 range. Go ahead
and get it and see what score you get…maybe a
6. Now her reaction may be quite vocal and excited
but not a 10 on the thrill scale where she stops
and looks at you in a way you never saw before.
I don’t know if you study her reaction like
I do, but after 19 years of marriage I have
a mental log of reactions ranging from 1 to
10. I don’t really keep score but use this terminology
for the article. But men like to really knock
her socks off, don’t we? I will reveal a trade
secret to you now, because I am tired of advertisements
to the contrary, trying to convince you that
if you REALLY love her you will buy her an EXPENSIVE
piece of jewelry. Here it is – BUZZER -WRONG.
She may even think this herself, but she does
not, deep down, BELIEVE it. I am not preaching
trying to second guess her for a moment. I am
trying to deliver the truth. Guys, what will
really get her attention, is what you DO for
her. For her, the gift you make has more MEANING.
Since it has more meaning, it has more value
to her. The meaning was invested by you and
your efforts to thrill her. The sweat equity
you put into something for her is your main
gift to her. She will cherish the thought you
put into it for her. Her thought, and reflection
on what you did is why she is so thrilled. She
is thrilled all of a sudden and like a ton of
bricks it will hit her, but it won’t go away.
Your actual physical gift you made for her,
will symbolize your intangible gift and remind
her of it for years to come. This is the whole
key.
Go ahead and go to the mall and pick up something
for her on your way home from work. She will
be moderately thrilled at perhaps a 6, and you
go on with life as usual. You did your “duty”
so she won’t get upset with you for completely
forgetting. Do yourselves a favor men, drop
the charade. Picking up a gift at the mall is
the easiest thing you could do and not a cost
effective reminder to your loved one that you
did not forget a special day for her. So now
that I have lambasted an entire foolish notion
and the thriving mall jewelry industry, what
should you do? Make something for her. But,
it takes a game plan.
Yeah, I hear the whining already. Planning. This
is not something guys typically want to deal with
for a Christmas, birthday or Valentine’s gift.
Planning, you know something the football team
uses to make awesome plays and win the Super Bowl.
Planning, the thing you put on your resume and
do at work that makes you the big bucks. Planning,
the management skill you reasonably present to
your boss to justify your next big promotion.
But no, planning is not for your wife or girlfriend’s
thrill factor? Yes it is. That is if you are striving
to thrill her. So what is the plan?
Now, remember, you are putting in sweat equity
here. You don’t need lots of money. In fact
you will blow the whole thing if you pull out
a wad of cash and try to make the whole thing
go away. This method does not work, you tried
it already.
Target an end date. Say her birthday, in 3
months. You know how to back off her birthday
three months right? OK maybe not. You do know
when her birthday is don’t you? So do your research
then. Find out when her birthday is. Call her
sister or something. Find out. OK now you have
her birth date. Good start. Don’t get peeved
at me yet. I know I am digging into your ego
here, SHE will thank you later. Just remember
that! Now you have a 3 month window. Good start.
You have 3 months to execute your new plan.
Here is what you do. So far you have spent 5
minutes remembering her birthday. Not to much
trouble. Now find a top notch craft to make
her that she will like. “She likes jewelry,”
you say? OK so make her some jewelry. “You aren’t
a jeweler”, you say. “No problem”, I say. I
will now interview you for your new craft job
to thrill her to no end.
Q: Do you know how to use pliers?
A: Yes
Q: Have you ever had a pair of pliers in each
hand?
A: Maybe…
Q: If given two pairs of pliers and some open
silver jump rings could you be persuaded to
close these jump rings?
A: If shown how I think I could manage.
Q: If given a pattern for some Chainmaille
Jewelry that shows you step by step how to make
an intricate rare bracelet could you handle
it?
A: The hand eye coordination I have gained
from using video games has given me all the
skills I need sir, consider me a fast learner.
Q: Last question, do you know how to surprise
your wife by keeping a secret and making your
jewelry project for her when she is gone for
the afternoon?
A: Yeah, I can handle that too.
Q: Any questions for me?
A: Where do I get the plans and patterns to
make this Chainmaille Jewelry? And how much
will it cost me?
A: Wait a minute. I don’t have any tools
Solution: visit culturejewelry.com, we have what
it takes to help you make your own chainmaille
jewelry.
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